I am very careful about disclosing my trans status to certain individuals. It wasn’t an issue with my family: they love me for me. I tell some friends and coworkers, and they respect my wishes to be identified as male. So far, I have not received any backlash or hate words. In fact, when the people I tell aren’t totally accepting, they are curious.
This is a good sign, I think, for individuals as a whole. Instead of rejecting the idea of differences in people, they are curious about them. They want to know what it’s like for me as a tranmale. They want to know what goes on in my head; how I view myself. Each time people ask me about my status, I feel like I’m in an interview. I can see it now: “Interview with a Transman: A First look into the Mind of One Born with an Opposite Brain”…or something with a less lengthy title. I don’t mind, though. I’d like for people to understand me and the trans community in general. After all, understanding is a step towards acceptance.
However, unlike most individuals, I came out lucky. 95% of my family is accepting of me, which is a given since there have been gay and lesbian members for a long time. They love me not as a man, woman, or something outside of it, but as a person. I have also been cautious as to which people I disclose to…but I’m just repeating myself at this point. To sum it up: I can’t really speak on behalf of everyone in the trans community.
While others are curious about me, I am also curious about myself. I’ve read that those born trans have brains that correspond to the gender they identify as. I have no doubt that I have a male brain (and the extra testosterone from PCOS helps out), but what I’m curious about is how my brain looks under a scan, since I’m both trans and autistic. Somewhere out there, I think there are doctors that are curious as well.
So, if anyone has any questions about my status, feel free to ask, but keep it nice. I will answer to the best of my ability.