November 20th is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. It is the day in which vigils are held for those who have been killed for being who they are. I participated in a vigil when I was in college. All our heads were lowered in solemn silence and prayer as the names of the deceased for that year were read to us. It made me sad to know that this kind of hatred and discrimination exists. It also made me worried that one day, either my name or the name of someone close to me, would appear on that list.
We are human, just like you. We laugh, we eat, we sleep, and enjoy pastimes, just like you. We’re trying to get through life day by day and striving for our dreams, just like you. We are who we are. The one major difference is that we were born in the wrong bodies.
Apparently, that one difference is enough for discrimination and murder.
I guess it’s because it’s easier to hate something different than to love it? Because it’s easier to deny than to accept? Because it’s easier to think that it’s “abnormal” in this “normal” world? Well, as someone who’s an autistic transgender adult, I can tell you this: what you consider “abnormal” is more normal than you think it is, and vice versa.
Loving everyone for who they are and not what they are? That’s normal. Hatred for people who are different? That’s abnormal. Identifying as the opposite gender you were born in? Normal. Murdering people for being who they are? Abnormal.
As humans, more and more of us are coming to accept the differences in each other. Yes, it’s easier to hate than to love, but where hate creates division, love creates unity, and mankind needs love more than hate. Over the years, more and more groups of people have been accepted: the groups of color, those with disabilities, and the LGBT community. Why the acceptance? Because we see past their exteriors to see the individuals within.
However, not everyone sees that, as the list of victims shows.
I could go on and on speculating why certain people don’t like the trans community (bad media portrayal, claiming that God makes mistakes, etc.), but there are others who can give better speculations without turning them into rambles, and I am not here to debate, but to say that we transfolk are still human in the end, and that we do not want hate and discrimination, but love and acceptance.
The world is full of both hatred and love, and we don’t need any more hatred. So please, remember those who have died when they shouldn’t have, and help to make the world a more loving, accepting place to live in, for everyone.